We could've been anything that we wanted to be
But don't it make your heart glad
That we decided, a fact we take pride in
We became the best at being bad
We could've been anything we wanted to be
With all the talent we had
No doubt about it, we whine and we pout it
We're the very best at being bad guys
We're rotten to the core
And my congratulations no one likes you any more
Bad guys, we're the very worst
Each of us contemptible, we're criticised and cursed
We made the big time, malicious and mad
We're the very best at being bad
We could've been anything we wanted to be
We took the easy way out
With little training, we mastered complaining
Manners seemed unnecessary
We're so rude, it's almost scary
We could've been anything that we wanted to be
With all the talent we had
With little practice, we made every black list
We're the very best at being bad
We're the very best at being bad
We're the very best at being bad
Monday, March 8, 2010
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Sunday, February 28, 2010
How to Attract Women Being the Bad Boy
It seems that when it comes to men chasing women, we guys are divided into two camps: the nice guys... and the bad boys. This is a very extreme way of looking at things, making men think that they have to make some huge decision with serious repercussions, like choosing between the Jedi and Dark Side, good and bad, black and white. But what about the middle ground? If you're a nice guy who puts women on a pedestal and lets them get away with everything, you certainly can't let them keep doing this. But if you're a bad guy who treats women like yesterday's trash, you're not going to do much better either. So there's got to be some compromise. Here are my seven proven techniques for getting women by embracing your "inner bad boy"--while still allowing yourself to be you.
1. Surprise them.
1. Surprise them.
If there's one thing girls like, it's a surprise. There's nothing better than keeping them on their toes. Do this by going against social norms; for example, giving her the "black power fist" when she's expecting a handshake. Or walk up to her and challenge her to a game of thumb wars. As you're having a great conversation, say you've got to leave. This all goes a long way towards making her heart flutter, and making YOU more attractive--without being a complete dooschbag.
2. Do the unexpected.
Unfortunately, nice guys always do what they're SUPPOSED to do. They say hello, ask sincerely how a girl is, and stare in admiration as she says she's a model. BORING. Nah, you've got to release your inner bad boy by doing the stuff you're NOT supposed to do. Show her you're fun, show her you're fearless: flirt shamelessly, grin at a sexual comment, and tease unabashedly. You don't have to be a complete jerk to do these things, just a guy who's confident that he'll get away with things that aren't "the norm". Girls love to not know what to expect, so do the unexpected!
3. Be a rebel.
I'm not saying to break the law, but don't always go by the rules. Show her you're fun and break conventions here and there.
So what if there are people watching! Give her a big kiss in the middle of the street. So what if boardwalk is closed?
Take her for a romantic midnight stroll. Who cares if the speed limit is 50? Drive her at 75 and watch her scream in delight. You don't have to be a complete ass to show girls some fun.
4. Get physical.
If you're not already going to a gym or into martial arts, now is the time. Girls love a guy who can kick some butt. It's the part of the bad boy that makes them feel safe and secure. So get to work on your body! Nothing says irresistible like a man in shape who can protect her.
5. Make her feel safe.
Show her your confidence, your self-assuredness by taking her hand, walking on the side of the sidewalk closest to the street, and never backing down from any situation. That's not a license to get into fights, just to make her feel protected and safe.
6. Tease.
This is a strategy you can't go wrong with. Bad boys don’t let a girl get away with unacceptable behavior. If she's talking like she's the greatest person ever, they'll joke, "Man, if this lady's ego gets any bigger we're all gonna have to evacuate!" If she says she's a model, say something to the effect of, "Oh yeah? Is that it?" And show her your value by saying, "Listen, I'm afraid I'm not gonna be able to stick around. Your mouth is destroying my ear drums." In other words, don't be afraid to joke around and put her in her place!
7. Develop attitude
I just can’t emphasize enough how crucial having a winning, confident attitude is. You don’t really care what others say. You don’t care what others think. No matter how a woman reacts, it just blows right over you. That’s because you’re always in control. No woman—whether beautiful, popular, or rich—has power over you. You’re not dependent on anyone, you don’t need anyone, and you don’t have to cling to anyone. If she thinks she's too good for you, you get right up and move to the next girl, because you're a great catch and you know it!
Remember, you don't have to be a complete asshole to get girls, just embrace the winning characteristics of the bad boys, and you'll be lining up girls left and right!
By James B
Saturday, February 27, 2010
What Do Bad Boys Have That Attract Women
Women know they shouldn't go there, but they do. There is simply something about bad boys women cant resist.
The alarm bells are ringing, past experiences are telling you to stay away, but trusting yourself to stay away is too much to ask. Bad boys don't often possess the stereo typical qualities of your everyday eligible man. According to social behaviour analysts, bad boys are less likely to be: smarter, successful at their career, family oriented or as physically attractive than their 'nice guy' counterparts.
So what constitutes a 'bad guy' and why do women want them.
Women feel safe and protected.
" He's not boring - never a dull moment."
Bad boys are charming and lustful.
" He’s no Mummy's boy "
Makes women feel incredibly beautiful during sex.
Brings out the true dominant and submissive roles men and women are biologically programmed to display.
" He's robust and competitive "
Bad boys do not come across as desperate.
Women feel complimented that someone like that would be attracted to them.
Some women find intimacy as a major issue in their lives. This being the case, its not uncommon for her to choose a man who is distant emotionally but strong and firm physically and who takes charge of the intimate issues the women has difficulty with and ultimately hands him control.
It is true that for some women, they forever sub-consciously seek out relationships that take on the same role as when they were children. If she has lead a healthy and family oriented upbringing, she will seek out a partner with whom she can continue this way of life with. If she was brought up as the primary carer, she will look for someone that she can take care of. If she has been brought up as a young girl with negative or violent influences and has longed for care and protection, then she will be attracted to bad boys.
Signs that your man really is a bad boy.
Any of the following represents that your man is not treating you in a respectful manner. You probably already know this but feel like you have a guardian that you can turn to for protection so you learn to accept the following as normal behaviour.
Rarely plans to do special things with you, rather calls you in the early evening and expects you to drop everything.
Doesn't show up at pre-arranged times and offers no explanation.
Prone to bleeding you of finances and is always promising to pay you back money he has borrowed.
Forgets or dismisses important dates such as your anniversary, or Valentines Day.
Has no issue flirting with other girls but will become volatile should you interact in a friendly manner with another man.
Turns up at your place after a night out in the early hours of the morning for sex and then leaves.
Dating bad boys offers women a false sense of self esteem which is propped up when they are together. Female singles who target bad boys for dating and relationships will usually end up hurt and rejected. Long term happiness within a relationship can only ever be achieved when a partner reciprocates expressing the importance of believing in yourself and encouraging each other in your beliefs and dreams.
Friday, February 26, 2010
Should Women Love Bad Boys?
When women are younger, they are often advised to stay away from "bad boys" who "only want one thing" and who are definitely poor marital prospects. While this is sage advice for unmarried women of childbearing age, it might be misleading advice for women who have been there and done the family thing.
What do we mean by "bad boy" and why are they sexually exciting to many woman? The classic bad boy has been captured in the movies by the role James Dean played in "Rebel Without a Cause" and the young Marlon Brando memorialized as the leader of a motorcycle gang out looking for trouble in "The Wild One". Both young men were bold anti-establishment heroes of the 1950s who rebelled against authority. They attracted women with their sexuality and need for feminine warmth and guidance, sort of the type who brings out the seductress and mother in many woman.
Thank goodness enough women choose more stable, hard-working, responsible men, capable of becoming dependable breadwinners and good fathers. However, we find a popular theme in novels is the ongoing yearning for the bad boy that is sometimes consummated in affairs. This bad boy is never someone you can reasonably hope to have a meaningful long-term relationship with and is an exceedingly poor candidate for a life partner.
What do we mean by "bad" goes back again to youthful upbringing, where parents properly council daughters not to give "it" away, as men "won't buy a cow if the milk is for free". However, woman over 50, most now disinterested in procreation, may be missing out by continuing to avoid the bad boys they find attractive, but poor candidates for "something more." That expectation of a quality that signifies "something more" keeps them from sharing an exciting evening where they can be "bad girls" and do some very exciting "bad things" ☺
As we enter our 50s and 60s, there is something about taking the time we have left more seriously and being more realistic about what is pleasurable to understand a balanced exchange. It seems that many woman carry a vestigial message about saving themselves for the right person, and miss opportunities to engage available men by being freer and more open sexually.
After all, most humans experience chemical bonding after a few repeated sexual encounters that can stand alone as an important experience and actually develop into something more. So paradoxically, when less concerned about connecting with the right man, women may actually increase the likelihood of forming greater emotional attachments. Perhaps, a better saying for more mature women is... "it might be better to give some of milk away rather then have it go to waste."
Thursday, February 25, 2010
The 7 Reasons Why Women Love Bad Boys
Have you ever wondered why THAT guy always seems to get the girls? He's brash, cocky and he marches to the beat of his own drum. He's on (or over) the edge, bordering on rude and doesn't seem to give a damn about anyone but himself - what exactly do women see in a guy like that?
You consider yourself outgoing, but conservative; interesting but a little shy; you can keep a conversation going, but with the right people... sounds good doesn't it? Why do the bad boys always seem to get the ladies? Here are 7 reasons why:
1. Rebels are confident
That's right. They wouldn't be able to pull off half of the antics they do if they weren't brimming with confidence. Bad boys aren't just confident around their friends, either - their cavalier attitude is in everything they do, from eating their cereal in the morning, to asking the bartender for a cool glass of draft... to talking to the ladies on the balcony at a friend's party. No matter where you look, women find confidence a major turn on.
2. Rebels are indifferent
Bad boys just simply don't give a damn. They can take it or leave it. That's one reason why they fare well with women. If a woman says no, who cares? They move on to the next one, and they do it with the same verve and maverick attitude as they did the last one. Here is a great quote, "Mr. Right doesn't necessarily care if he is Mr. Right." That's indifference in a nutshell.
3. Rebels are exciting and adventurous
Ask yourself, "when was the last time I took a walk on the wild side?" If you are asking yourself that question, then you obviously aren't a rebel. The 'bad boys' are always testing the boundaries and pushing the envelope when it comes to their life - and women can't get enough of it. They find it intriguing. And when you put exciting and adventurous beside the other rebellious traits, it sends women into a tizzy.
4. Rebels are challenging and mysterious
Women don't dig men that are pushovers. They also don't like men that they can see coming a mile away. Contrary to the belief women like men they can read and men that provide them with a sense of security, women actually LOVE to guess! It is challenging for them, and it is one of the elements of the bad boy that keeps them coming back for more!
5. Rebels are very masculine
This often goes hand-in-hand with being confident, indifferent, exciting, adventurous... etc. Bad boys are often rugged and in-control. That doesn't mean controlling; they just know how to get what they want. They speak clearly and confidently, they look you in the eye, they are passionate about what they believe in... but most importantly, they still know how to treat a lady.
6. Rebels give women a feeling of power
The illusion of control is often more powerful than control itself. Power within a relationship, power outside of a relationship - it doesn't matter - being with a bad boy, encompassing all of the above traits, gives women an air of strength and togetherness. Essentially the confident, cocky bad boy image rubs off a little bit on her - and she laps it up!
7. Rebels know how to talk to women
If they weren't confident, rebels would not be the chick magnets they are. Instead of indifferent, they would be self-conscious and non-committal (how many women have you passed up because you didn't think you were good enough?) - you see, rebels don't care. Rising to the challenge, living the wild side of life, being something more than conservative, and keeping her guessing about you - and her - it's an explosive combination! And one that is geared to success for the dating male.
The combination makes the talking part almost a given - considering the woman's interest has already been sparked. Talking with them is just the part that reels them in. And the bad boy knows how to tell her just what she wants to hear.
Rebels know how to talk to women because they are all of the above. Confidence followed up with indifference, sprinkled with a little bit of mystery, intrigue and excitement is what attracts most women to start. That gets you the 'in' to talk with them - they're interested, now you have to show them what you've got. Figuring those things out is the trick. Bad boys use their conversational skills to keep a woman interested and wanting more - and you can too.
You consider yourself outgoing, but conservative; interesting but a little shy; you can keep a conversation going, but with the right people... sounds good doesn't it? Why do the bad boys always seem to get the ladies? Here are 7 reasons why:
1. Rebels are confident
That's right. They wouldn't be able to pull off half of the antics they do if they weren't brimming with confidence. Bad boys aren't just confident around their friends, either - their cavalier attitude is in everything they do, from eating their cereal in the morning, to asking the bartender for a cool glass of draft... to talking to the ladies on the balcony at a friend's party. No matter where you look, women find confidence a major turn on.
2. Rebels are indifferent
Bad boys just simply don't give a damn. They can take it or leave it. That's one reason why they fare well with women. If a woman says no, who cares? They move on to the next one, and they do it with the same verve and maverick attitude as they did the last one. Here is a great quote, "Mr. Right doesn't necessarily care if he is Mr. Right." That's indifference in a nutshell.
3. Rebels are exciting and adventurous
Ask yourself, "when was the last time I took a walk on the wild side?" If you are asking yourself that question, then you obviously aren't a rebel. The 'bad boys' are always testing the boundaries and pushing the envelope when it comes to their life - and women can't get enough of it. They find it intriguing. And when you put exciting and adventurous beside the other rebellious traits, it sends women into a tizzy.
4. Rebels are challenging and mysterious
Women don't dig men that are pushovers. They also don't like men that they can see coming a mile away. Contrary to the belief women like men they can read and men that provide them with a sense of security, women actually LOVE to guess! It is challenging for them, and it is one of the elements of the bad boy that keeps them coming back for more!
5. Rebels are very masculine
This often goes hand-in-hand with being confident, indifferent, exciting, adventurous... etc. Bad boys are often rugged and in-control. That doesn't mean controlling; they just know how to get what they want. They speak clearly and confidently, they look you in the eye, they are passionate about what they believe in... but most importantly, they still know how to treat a lady.
6. Rebels give women a feeling of power
The illusion of control is often more powerful than control itself. Power within a relationship, power outside of a relationship - it doesn't matter - being with a bad boy, encompassing all of the above traits, gives women an air of strength and togetherness. Essentially the confident, cocky bad boy image rubs off a little bit on her - and she laps it up!
7. Rebels know how to talk to women
If they weren't confident, rebels would not be the chick magnets they are. Instead of indifferent, they would be self-conscious and non-committal (how many women have you passed up because you didn't think you were good enough?) - you see, rebels don't care. Rising to the challenge, living the wild side of life, being something more than conservative, and keeping her guessing about you - and her - it's an explosive combination! And one that is geared to success for the dating male.
The combination makes the talking part almost a given - considering the woman's interest has already been sparked. Talking with them is just the part that reels them in. And the bad boy knows how to tell her just what she wants to hear.
Rebels know how to talk to women because they are all of the above. Confidence followed up with indifference, sprinkled with a little bit of mystery, intrigue and excitement is what attracts most women to start. That gets you the 'in' to talk with them - they're interested, now you have to show them what you've got. Figuring those things out is the trick. Bad boys use their conversational skills to keep a woman interested and wanting more - and you can too.
Author's Bio
Chris Williamson shows you exactly how to talk to women so they find you totally irresistible. Learn the 5 essential keys of flirting with women. To receive your free 5-part mini-course visit: http://www.flirtingformula.com
Chris Williamson shows you exactly how to talk to women so they find you totally irresistible. Learn the 5 essential keys of flirting with women. To receive your free 5-part mini-course visit: http://www.flirtingformula.com
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Top 10 Reasons Why Good Women Chase Bad Boys
1. They think they can reform them
Women have always had a problem with making excuses for bad behavior. We see the potential in the bad guy and think if we love them enough they will become the prince of a man we just know in our hearts they can be.
2. They think they are different from all the other girls
Women think the bad boy is bad because they haven't had THEIR special care and loving. They think THEY will be the one to turn this bad boy into a good boy. They think their love is different and again try to do more things than they should to capture acceptance and love from this kind of guy.
3. They think having something bad is better than being alone
Women are naturally relationship oriented. So even a bad relationship is better than no relationship at all...some think. Let's face it, there's a lot of fear out there to getting back into the dating scene. Most do NOT enjoy it. Where do they look, how do they know the next person is being truthful, how many months do I have to get to know this person to get to the place I'm already at with this guy? So they figure at least I know what I've got.
4. They are problem solvers
Some women take these men on as projects. It gives them purpose in their life. Working on someone else prevents you from really taking a look are yourself and working on improving your own life.
5. They think it's exciting
OK come on! Bad boys cause drama and definitively give you something to tell your girl friends about around the water cooler in your workplace. They often take risks and include you in that game. It can be addictive living on the edge.
6. They have low self esteem
Some women actually think they deserve to be treated badly. Maybe it's a pattern from childhood. So they look for someone to fill that job.
7. They think bad boys care more than they do
Some women mistaking think controlling behavior and jealousy are part of someone showing how much they care. It does NOT! When you care you allow your partner to have independent interests and ideas and yes even friends.
8. They think bad boys are sexy
The media covers us in every form possible with the message that bad boys are sexy. They are the ones in videos getting the beauties, they are the ones talked about in the news, talked about in realty shows. They are usually sexually experienced and let everyone know it.
9. They know bad boys rock conformity
Want to shake things up with your relatives or work buddies? Bring home a bad boy. Some women purposely go after bad boys because they haven't had the courage to rock conformity so they do it thru a bad boy.
10. They know bad boys seldom commit
SO it makes women work harder, longer, make promises to yourself, go wishing and hoping and feel like you are the one to capture this bad boy. If you really don't want a commitment, chase after bad boys and then you can use THEM as the excuse when others ask why YOU aren't married.
Women have always had a problem with making excuses for bad behavior. We see the potential in the bad guy and think if we love them enough they will become the prince of a man we just know in our hearts they can be.
2. They think they are different from all the other girls
Women think the bad boy is bad because they haven't had THEIR special care and loving. They think THEY will be the one to turn this bad boy into a good boy. They think their love is different and again try to do more things than they should to capture acceptance and love from this kind of guy.
3. They think having something bad is better than being alone
Women are naturally relationship oriented. So even a bad relationship is better than no relationship at all...some think. Let's face it, there's a lot of fear out there to getting back into the dating scene. Most do NOT enjoy it. Where do they look, how do they know the next person is being truthful, how many months do I have to get to know this person to get to the place I'm already at with this guy? So they figure at least I know what I've got.
4. They are problem solvers
Some women take these men on as projects. It gives them purpose in their life. Working on someone else prevents you from really taking a look are yourself and working on improving your own life.
5. They think it's exciting
OK come on! Bad boys cause drama and definitively give you something to tell your girl friends about around the water cooler in your workplace. They often take risks and include you in that game. It can be addictive living on the edge.
6. They have low self esteem
Some women actually think they deserve to be treated badly. Maybe it's a pattern from childhood. So they look for someone to fill that job.
7. They think bad boys care more than they do
Some women mistaking think controlling behavior and jealousy are part of someone showing how much they care. It does NOT! When you care you allow your partner to have independent interests and ideas and yes even friends.
8. They think bad boys are sexy
The media covers us in every form possible with the message that bad boys are sexy. They are the ones in videos getting the beauties, they are the ones talked about in the news, talked about in realty shows. They are usually sexually experienced and let everyone know it.
9. They know bad boys rock conformity
Want to shake things up with your relatives or work buddies? Bring home a bad boy. Some women purposely go after bad boys because they haven't had the courage to rock conformity so they do it thru a bad boy.
10. They know bad boys seldom commit
SO it makes women work harder, longer, make promises to yourself, go wishing and hoping and feel like you are the one to capture this bad boy. If you really don't want a commitment, chase after bad boys and then you can use THEM as the excuse when others ask why YOU aren't married.
CSP Sheryl Nicholson is an International Professional Speaker Affordable Coaching at http://www.myimplimentationcoach.com Published all over and easy to email at sheryl@sheryl.com
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Why Women Can't Resist Bad Boys
"Its a question that has tormented the average man since the dawn of time, or at least since the invention of tattoos and motorcycles: what is it about Bad Boys that women find so damn irresistible?Why do women like bad boys? Why do beautiful girls dismiss the “Nice Guys” who are willing to pledge their hearts and paychecks, and plunge instead into high-drama relationships with arrogant players? What is this Bad Boy attraction all about?"
From Frank Sinatra to Johnny Depp, the list of Bad Boy celebrities—and the trail of broken hearts they’ve left in their wake—is endless. Lenny Kravitz romped with Nicole Kidman. Supermodel Kate Moss couldn’t shake her addiction to the low-life junkie rocker Pete Doherty. Pamela Anderson (who is in desperate need of Bad Boy rehab) terminated her latest marriage to some shady dude whose claim to fame was making and selling a sex tape with Paris Hilton. Before that disastrous relationship, she was married to Tommy Lee and Kid Rock.
A lot of women will tell you they found Tony Soprano incredibly sexy. Never mind the fact that he was a murderous criminal, and regularly cheated on his wife with strippers at the Bada Bing club; he was an Alpha Male to the core, a straight-ahead, no-apologies, hyper-masculine figure that women find irresistible despite all common sense.
For several years, Kevin “K-Fed” Federline was the reigning Bad Boy of the tabloids. While he’s easy to mock, K-Fed did manage to bag the most famous babe on the planet at the height of her career. Britney Spears overlooked the fact that he was broke and already had two kids by another woman; she was enthralled by his cocky Bad Boy swagger.
When their relationship inevitably imploded (amid allegations of K-Fed’s infidelities), she went into a tailspin. When women break up with their Bad Boy obsessions, they often go into nuclear meltdown mode. The Bad Boy’s psychological grip on women is that powerful.
This phenomenon is on full display in Las Vegas, my home turf. The nightclubs are crawling with slickly dressed Bad Boys, surrounded by fawning women in the VIP booths. At the summertime casino pool parties, you’ll find another type—the white-kid “gangsta” Bad Boys—showing off their tattoo-covered torsos and piercings. They wrap hot chicks around their fingers the way no millionaire lawyer or doctor could ever hope to.
At the strip clubs, the sexiest dancers often date the bottom of the Bad Boy barrel. It’s a safe bet that the “perfect 10” who pulls down $2,000 a night in tips goes home to some gangsta wanna-be who blows her earnings on weed and Xbox games. If not, she’s probably banging the DJ or the bouncer with the neck tattoo and roid-rage issues.
The attraction, if you ask me, is rooted in the female DNA. Women are programmed to want a man who makes them feel secure and able to protect her and their offspring. It’s the same instinct that drove women into the arms of Bad Boys 10,000 years ago, when survival actually did depend on hooking up with a guy who could defend his nest (or his cave).
In this day and age, one doesn’t need the physical strength to slay dinosaurs or fend off barbarian hordes. Bad Boys don't need to have a lot of cash, either. It’s their emotional strength that women are drawn towards. They live by their own code and have bulletproof self-confidence, which means they are well-equipped to survive.
Another element of the attraction is that women want what they can’t have. I explain in my books how women are hard-wired to push a man’s buttons and test him, in order to determine whether he’s an Alpha Male or a Nice Guy pushover. This is part of the female “screening process,” as they determine which men are suitable for them to nest and mate with—and which guys lack the qualities that she’ll need in order to feel secure, both physically and emotionally.
Meanwhile, Nice Guys bend over backwards to avoid drama; Bad Boys give women all the drama they can handle. For women, the emotional rollercoaster of dating a Bad Boy—who’s always got other hotties on speed-dial, and is constantly challenging her to hold his interest—becomes addicting. (As Commandment #1 of the Ten Mack Commandments states, “Flee and they will follow; follow and they will flee.”)
If being an eager-to-please wuss has held you back in your dating life, it’s time for you to start incorporating a Bad Boy “edge” into your attitude. First, stop making yourself constantly available to women. Ideally, you should live a full enough life—and have enough women in your orbit—that you really aren’t free any night of the week that a woman wants to see you. But until you reach that level, you can send the message that you live a rich, busy Alpha Male lifestyle by simply taking a different tact when women want to make plans with you.
Let’s say you exchanged phone numbers with a hottie the other day. She calls you up and says, “Me and my friends are going out tonight to the bar, do you want to come meet up?”
WACK RESPONSE: “Definitely! I can be there in an hour.”
MACK RESPONSE: “Well, I have some appointments tonight…but if I can get freed up a bit later, I’ll try to stop by and make an appearance.”
There’s a major difference in how a woman will perceive these two types of responses: you’re either the typical, eager-to-please dude with nothing else going on his life, or you’re the Mack who fits women into his schedule, and only sees women at his convenience.
(What are your “other appointments?" You don't give a direct answer on purpose. Women will usually assume you’re spending time with other women, and this is a GOOD thing… you'll trigger that natural jealousy/competitive instincts.
Next, it’s critical that you are a decision maker instead of always putting the ball in her court. Women really don't want to make the decisions. This has to do with how they’re wired. Men are wired to operate according to logic, and to solve problems so that they avoid uneccessary bullshit and drama; women are ruled by their emotions, which are constantly shifting and can erupt into drama for no apparent reason. (Women subconsciously seek to create drama, especially when they’re in relationships, as it serves to make their partner reassure them and confirm that he’s there to support her.)
A woman can experience turbulent emotions over something as simple as making plans for next Saturday night, or figuring out which dress to buy. As a man, you’ve got to be the emotional rock who makes the decisions and puts her emotions in check.
By always making the necessary decisions and laying out the gameplan, she will be compelled to follow your lead. This, in turn, makes her feel secure with you.
Let’s look at another example. You call a girl to plan a date…
WACK APPROACH: “So I was thinking, maybe if you’re free sometime, we could do something…”
MACK APPROACH: “You said you don’t work on Friday night, and there’s this awesome new café with great music that I want to show you. I’m going there Friday around nine o’clock, I can pick you up and we can go together.”
Most importantly, stop broadcasting your interest. Never make it obvious that you’re into a girl; Bad Boy seduction is about always keeps women guessing. This means no more complimenting women on their beauty, confessing your attraction, or being available anytime she wants to see you or chat on the phone. Maintain an element of mystery and never act easily impressed.
This attitude is manifested in the way you converse with women: the conversational tactics I teach include playfully teasing women and throwing out little “challenges” to see if she meets your high standards, rather than taking the typical approach—which is to talk about yourself and try to impress her.
There’s a scene in The Empire Strikes Back that says it all. Han Solo (played by Harrison Ford) is about to be dragged off to the deep-freeze chamber. Princess Leia only has a couple of seconds to say goodbye. The sexual tension and attraction has been building up between them. They share a passionate kiss, and she blurts out, “I love you.”
Han looks at her coolly and says, “I know.”
That’s a classic Bad Boy reply. It comes down to being the prize instead of the pursuer. Adopt this attitude and you won’t need to spend painful hours in a tattoo chair, play bass in a punk rock band, or join the Mafia (or a mixed martial arts league) to drive women wild.
By Dean Cortez
For more info visit http://www.seductiondynamics.com
From Frank Sinatra to Johnny Depp, the list of Bad Boy celebrities—and the trail of broken hearts they’ve left in their wake—is endless. Lenny Kravitz romped with Nicole Kidman. Supermodel Kate Moss couldn’t shake her addiction to the low-life junkie rocker Pete Doherty. Pamela Anderson (who is in desperate need of Bad Boy rehab) terminated her latest marriage to some shady dude whose claim to fame was making and selling a sex tape with Paris Hilton. Before that disastrous relationship, she was married to Tommy Lee and Kid Rock.
A lot of women will tell you they found Tony Soprano incredibly sexy. Never mind the fact that he was a murderous criminal, and regularly cheated on his wife with strippers at the Bada Bing club; he was an Alpha Male to the core, a straight-ahead, no-apologies, hyper-masculine figure that women find irresistible despite all common sense.
For several years, Kevin “K-Fed” Federline was the reigning Bad Boy of the tabloids. While he’s easy to mock, K-Fed did manage to bag the most famous babe on the planet at the height of her career. Britney Spears overlooked the fact that he was broke and already had two kids by another woman; she was enthralled by his cocky Bad Boy swagger.
When their relationship inevitably imploded (amid allegations of K-Fed’s infidelities), she went into a tailspin. When women break up with their Bad Boy obsessions, they often go into nuclear meltdown mode. The Bad Boy’s psychological grip on women is that powerful.
This phenomenon is on full display in Las Vegas, my home turf. The nightclubs are crawling with slickly dressed Bad Boys, surrounded by fawning women in the VIP booths. At the summertime casino pool parties, you’ll find another type—the white-kid “gangsta” Bad Boys—showing off their tattoo-covered torsos and piercings. They wrap hot chicks around their fingers the way no millionaire lawyer or doctor could ever hope to.
At the strip clubs, the sexiest dancers often date the bottom of the Bad Boy barrel. It’s a safe bet that the “perfect 10” who pulls down $2,000 a night in tips goes home to some gangsta wanna-be who blows her earnings on weed and Xbox games. If not, she’s probably banging the DJ or the bouncer with the neck tattoo and roid-rage issues.
The attraction, if you ask me, is rooted in the female DNA. Women are programmed to want a man who makes them feel secure and able to protect her and their offspring. It’s the same instinct that drove women into the arms of Bad Boys 10,000 years ago, when survival actually did depend on hooking up with a guy who could defend his nest (or his cave).
In this day and age, one doesn’t need the physical strength to slay dinosaurs or fend off barbarian hordes. Bad Boys don't need to have a lot of cash, either. It’s their emotional strength that women are drawn towards. They live by their own code and have bulletproof self-confidence, which means they are well-equipped to survive.
Another element of the attraction is that women want what they can’t have. I explain in my books how women are hard-wired to push a man’s buttons and test him, in order to determine whether he’s an Alpha Male or a Nice Guy pushover. This is part of the female “screening process,” as they determine which men are suitable for them to nest and mate with—and which guys lack the qualities that she’ll need in order to feel secure, both physically and emotionally.
Meanwhile, Nice Guys bend over backwards to avoid drama; Bad Boys give women all the drama they can handle. For women, the emotional rollercoaster of dating a Bad Boy—who’s always got other hotties on speed-dial, and is constantly challenging her to hold his interest—becomes addicting. (As Commandment #1 of the Ten Mack Commandments states, “Flee and they will follow; follow and they will flee.”)
If being an eager-to-please wuss has held you back in your dating life, it’s time for you to start incorporating a Bad Boy “edge” into your attitude. First, stop making yourself constantly available to women. Ideally, you should live a full enough life—and have enough women in your orbit—that you really aren’t free any night of the week that a woman wants to see you. But until you reach that level, you can send the message that you live a rich, busy Alpha Male lifestyle by simply taking a different tact when women want to make plans with you.
Let’s say you exchanged phone numbers with a hottie the other day. She calls you up and says, “Me and my friends are going out tonight to the bar, do you want to come meet up?”
WACK RESPONSE: “Definitely! I can be there in an hour.”
MACK RESPONSE: “Well, I have some appointments tonight…but if I can get freed up a bit later, I’ll try to stop by and make an appearance.”
There’s a major difference in how a woman will perceive these two types of responses: you’re either the typical, eager-to-please dude with nothing else going on his life, or you’re the Mack who fits women into his schedule, and only sees women at his convenience.
(What are your “other appointments?" You don't give a direct answer on purpose. Women will usually assume you’re spending time with other women, and this is a GOOD thing… you'll trigger that natural jealousy/competitive instincts.
Next, it’s critical that you are a decision maker instead of always putting the ball in her court. Women really don't want to make the decisions. This has to do with how they’re wired. Men are wired to operate according to logic, and to solve problems so that they avoid uneccessary bullshit and drama; women are ruled by their emotions, which are constantly shifting and can erupt into drama for no apparent reason. (Women subconsciously seek to create drama, especially when they’re in relationships, as it serves to make their partner reassure them and confirm that he’s there to support her.)
A woman can experience turbulent emotions over something as simple as making plans for next Saturday night, or figuring out which dress to buy. As a man, you’ve got to be the emotional rock who makes the decisions and puts her emotions in check.
By always making the necessary decisions and laying out the gameplan, she will be compelled to follow your lead. This, in turn, makes her feel secure with you.
Let’s look at another example. You call a girl to plan a date…
WACK APPROACH: “So I was thinking, maybe if you’re free sometime, we could do something…”
MACK APPROACH: “You said you don’t work on Friday night, and there’s this awesome new café with great music that I want to show you. I’m going there Friday around nine o’clock, I can pick you up and we can go together.”
Most importantly, stop broadcasting your interest. Never make it obvious that you’re into a girl; Bad Boy seduction is about always keeps women guessing. This means no more complimenting women on their beauty, confessing your attraction, or being available anytime she wants to see you or chat on the phone. Maintain an element of mystery and never act easily impressed.
This attitude is manifested in the way you converse with women: the conversational tactics I teach include playfully teasing women and throwing out little “challenges” to see if she meets your high standards, rather than taking the typical approach—which is to talk about yourself and try to impress her.
There’s a scene in The Empire Strikes Back that says it all. Han Solo (played by Harrison Ford) is about to be dragged off to the deep-freeze chamber. Princess Leia only has a couple of seconds to say goodbye. The sexual tension and attraction has been building up between them. They share a passionate kiss, and she blurts out, “I love you.”
Han looks at her coolly and says, “I know.”
That’s a classic Bad Boy reply. It comes down to being the prize instead of the pursuer. Adopt this attitude and you won’t need to spend painful hours in a tattoo chair, play bass in a punk rock band, or join the Mafia (or a mixed martial arts league) to drive women wild.
By Dean Cortez
For more info visit http://www.seductiondynamics.com
Monday, February 22, 2010
Why Good Girls Go For Bad Boys
Women know before hand the hard-to-find traits that they're looking for in a guy ("Mr. Right"), and because there are so seemingly few in existence, women don't put their lives on hold. Instead they go from guy to guy, boyfriend to boyfriend, subconsciously hoping that one day this Mr. Right will suddenly drop into their lives. To a woman, Mr. Right is someone who appeals to her own personal style. Mr. Right could be anyone... And it's not about looks (sure looks might get her attention, but only for a moment). Again, Mr. Right could be anyone, and so a woman will perform "tests" to see if a particular guy might be a Mr. Right.
For the purpose of this article, let's say that Mr. Right is a guy who's presence tells the world that he expects respect, and he doesn't have to work for this respect.
So everything about you says that you deserve respect just because you were born. But do you really deserve this respect?... Time to put you to the test.
For example, sometimes women will "lead you on" as a means of testing you... If you respond in any way that tells a woman that you think she's leading you on, you've just failed the test. So no matter what happens, never do anythingthat makes her think that you think she's leading you on. One easy way to disable this specific test is to put a stop to all contact with her the moment she attempts to test you (and don't waste your time telling her off - it's counterproductive!). Turn your back (so to speak) and don't say anything, and do not be affected. If you tell her off, it shows her that she's had an affect on you.
By acting unaffected, her mind will go to work, wondering why you're not affected by her antics... Allude (but be subtle) to other women, and you'll make her think that the reason you're not being "strung along", is that you have other women to choose from... She might even wonder if it's you stringing her along! However, if you're going to allude to women, BE CAREFUL... Remember to be subtle, because if you outright say that you have other women to choose from, or that you "can get any girl", you may challenge her pride. And if she's prideful, this can give her the psychological strength to leave you and never look back.
The more a woman wonders as to what your intentions are, the more she becomes involved psychologically, and the more your value goes up in her eyes... This is a good reason why many "bad boys" have their way with women... [ "...Psychologically, the more a woman (or anyone) wants something, the more it will elude her, and the more she'll chase after it. In your case, the longer this process carries on, the less willing she will be to give you up once she thinks you're 'caught'"... - Section III, Senoritas Escandalosa - Dating-Insider.com ]
Anger and emotion are counterproductive - when dealing with a woman's tests, it's not about passing these tests by doing "the right thing"... it's about staying calm and objective, and throwing her off-balance by not letting her test you.
Remember: To pass her tests, ignore them. Do not give her tests the time of day. If her tests are persistent, laugh at them until she feels foolish for trying to test you.
When she tests, treat her like she's your kid sister... Because in reality, this is how she's acting. Sometimes women are aware they're performing tests, and other times they're not aware. Rather than chasing along, trying to pass her tests, laugh them off. And then go on as if it's business as usual. Maybe you'll piss her off and she'll never want to talk to you again, but this is a risk you have to be willing to take. Chances are much greater she'll have a lot more respect for you in the end. And even if she doesn't want to talk to you again, be secure knowing that you didn't play by her rules, and instead are telling her to play by yours, or hit the road.
If you've ever wondered why women go for "assholes", you've just learned a key driving force. In reality, most of these assholes aren't assholes... They're simply untouchable. They do things on their own terms. They can't be negotiated with... They act with authority, and get the respect that goes along with it. They can't be tested. They maintain independence from social constraints.
This is the kind of independence that Hollywood has glorified, because it's a position that commands respect and authority. Women string guys along until they find a guy that they can't string along. Then that woman's attention will suddenly center 100% on this new guy, and the guys who were being strung along are all but forgotten. If you've learned anything by now from Dating-Insider.com, it's independence. Independence shows that you have high confidence, and don't have to depend on anyone for your well being. Independence in men can be thought of as seducing women without even trying. Women (and men) are attracted to independence. To an outside observer, you're not trying to pick up the women in question. Instead, you carry on as if women aren't that important to you. While seemingly arrogant, it somehow strikes a psychological chord with many women.
At the time of this writing, Pamela Anderson - a woman worshipped by men around the world and made a household name by the television show, Baywatch - is dating music performer, Kid Rock. Before Kid Rock, she had a well-publicized relationship with Tommy Lee of 80's glamour rock band Motley Cruë... Before ever meeting these musicians, you can be sure that Pam Anderson had heard some of their songs... Consider the lyrics she probably heard...
"Girl don't go away mad, just go away..." (Motley Cruë)
"I'm not straight out of Compton, I'm straight out of the trailer..." (Kid Rock)
"It's the same old situation, it's the same old ball and chain..." (Motley Cruë)
"Because I want to be a cowboy, baby..." (Kid Rock)
Tommy Lee and Kid Rock have both had their way with one of the most worshipped women in history. If anything, these relationships have really put a spot light on the "bad boy" image that for a variety of reasons, is powerfully seductive.
So what do women see in bad boys?
Two words... RISK and INDEPENDENCE (remember these words from earlier in this article?). Since women are not prepared to be responsible for being "bad" themselves (risk taking / adventure seeking), they find it very attractive when they find men who are "bad". These are men who are (or seem) prepared to take risks and have adventures and along the way, will encourage the women, to be bad themselves. That's a great deal of the appeal of a bad boy. Even if the woman is bad, she's still morally better than he is. And that's very attractive to her. She can be as bad as she wants, and she knows the guy will be badder.
The other thing is that bad boys are perceived as guys who have more "wild fun" than "nice guys". And they show women more fun. Bad boys like their lives. Women find their energy and self-confidence strongly attractive. When women find these traits in a nice guy (which is rare), they usually marry him. When they find it in a bad boy, they usually just sleep with him.
If you want plenty of one night stands, consider taking on the aura of a "bad boy"... Or in more common terms... BECOME A BAD BOY... Then put yourself in an environment where women are looking for guys like you, and you'll find many vying for your attention.
(Side Note: This is why most "nice guys" don't get one night stands... And when "nice guys" are out on the town, they make it EVEN EASIER for bad boys to get one night stands. Because nice guys help make the bad boys stick out in a crowd.)
Pamela Anderson could have any man in the world. She could have Billionaires. She could have Kings.
So (at least at the time of this writing) why is she with a butt-rocker from Detroit?
Now you know.
by Dating Insider
Sunday, February 21, 2010
4 Reasons Women are Attracted to 'Bad Boys'
by eHarmony Advice
Why is it that many sensible and responsible women are attracted to "bad boys?" What do otherwise conscientious and even conservative women see in rebels and rabble-rousers?First, understand that bad boys come in many variations and degrees. There are the seriously bad apples who have regular run-ins with the law, habitually use drugs, and get arrested for violent acts. Then there's the milder variety -- mischief-makers who enjoy breaking rules just because they're there. These guys have unusually high testosterone, and they haven't learned to channel all that aggression in a constructive way. So they drive too fast, engage in risky behaviors, and seek out danger. Other guys adopt a bad boy image because it gives them an identity, acceptance in their peer group, or attention from their parents and other adults.
There are typically four reasons good girls fall for guys like these:
1. The impulse to perpetuate what's familiar.
Many women attracted to rogues had a father who was a little wild and rebellious. Because many girls idealize their father, they may seek a partner with similar traits. This usually isn't a conscious decision; much of the allure happens below the level of awareness. Girls may also choose these boys on the assumption that Dad will be impressed.
2. The urge to redo the father-daughter relationship.
The motivation is an attempt to revise a troubled or distant relationship with their dad. Often, attraction is fueled by unmet childhood needs from the opposite-sex parent. So if a woman chooses someone reminiscent of her father, her motivation may be to remedy childhood hurts.
3. The drive to rehabilitate or "save" a wayward man.
Simply put, many women are rescuers. It's a challenge for them to reform an incorrigible man. These women think, Sure, he gets into trouble, but I can change him! Ego is involved as well. It's inflating when a woman feels like she is the only one who can transform a man.
4. The appetite for adventure.
Other women like the excitement, thrills, and sense of danger bad boys bring. This is especially true for those who have been "good girls" all their lives. Perhaps they grew up in a family that demanded conformity and compliance with rules. So they're intrigued with men who scoff at rules and shrug off responsibility.
How do these relationships usually turn out? In a word, poorly. That's because bad boys won't change unless they want to -- no matter how long-suffering their partner might be. Further, despite initial attraction, most women get tired of bailing a man out of jail, wondering if he'll make it home from a party, or catching him with another woman. Women who sign on with bad boys enlist for endless conflict and turmoil. Ironically, the very thing that draws good girls and bad boys together is usually their undoing. Many women have learned the hard way that bad boys make bad dating partners -- and even worse spouses.
Saturday, February 20, 2010
Why Some Girls Go For Bad Boys
Q. I understand that females want men who care, who bond with them and make them feel special, but I have seen a lot of women who respect "bad boys" more than they do a guy who is romantic. In other words, the nice romantic guy does all that work and the player plays with the girl and ends up with her !!! I always see this.
A. A bad boy is attractive to a woman because he is exciting and unpredictable, and a wimp or a typical nice guy is perfect all the time, but is boring. So, the real question for you to examine is how can you be an exciting, passionate man without having to be a jerk in the process. It means make things exciting with a woman, not predictable.
When you do something nice for a woman, you are applying what behaviorists call "reinforcement." Intuitively, "bad boys" know all about this. A "reinforcement" is a reward something that feels good that the subject gets for performing a certain behavior or for having a certain feeling. For instance, giving a dog a treat when he comes to you when you call his name reinforces the behavior of coming when you call. In time, the dog will look forward to coming when you call, because he knows that obeying you will mean he'll get a reinforcement that he likes.
The thing to know is that if you give the dog a treat every single time he comes when you call, he'll start to get lazy. He'll figure, "Eh, why should I hurry? I can get over there in my own good time, and take the treat." Constant reinforcement stops being effective after a while.
You may have noticed this in your own relationships. Have you ever had someone who consistently goes out of his or her way to make you feel special? Suppose that one morning, out of the blue, someone at your work place brought you a cup of excellent coffee when you first sat down at your desk. You'd probably feel pretty special, and you'd be happy to see that person later in the day. You would have associated seeing that person with the good feelings you got from the gift.
But now imagine if that person brought you coffee every single day, like clockwork, and never missed a day. At first you'd probably appreciate it, then you'd notice it less, then you'd hardly notice it at all. You might even start complaining when the coffee wasn't exactly the way you liked it, or get angry if he or she missed a day. You'd naturally go from being delighted by the constant gifts to seeing them as a regular part of life, or even as something you intrinsically deserve. This is a natural reaction to constant, unvarying reinforcement.
If you constantly shower a woman with gifts and attention, you run the risk of the same thing happening. At first, it's important to reinforce a woman constantly; it gets her in the habit of being happy about seeing you. But after a while, if your gifts and attention are going to stay effective, you must start bestowing them a little more irregularly. This is what behavior experts call a "variable schedule of reinforcement." You don't give her flowers every week, or every date. You don't always have a little gift for her. You don't always show up to flirt with her at the same time, or on the same day. You vary your schedule of making her feel extra-good, and thus keep the interaction exciting and fresh for her.
Tom puts a variable schedule of reinforcement to good use. "When I first start dating a woman, I go out of my way to make her feel good a lot," he says. "But in time, I know I can start scaling back. As long as I keep making her feel good often, I get better results if I don't reinforce her with special gifts or presents every single time I see her." The classic trap to watch out for is any reinforcing behavior that begins to look like a habit to you. Keep an eye open for things you always do to make her feel special. Don't always bring her gifts; don't always visit her work place once every three days. Vary your schedule of reinforcement, and you'll have a lot more success.
Best of luck !
Ron Louis and David Copeland
A. A bad boy is attractive to a woman because he is exciting and unpredictable, and a wimp or a typical nice guy is perfect all the time, but is boring. So, the real question for you to examine is how can you be an exciting, passionate man without having to be a jerk in the process. It means make things exciting with a woman, not predictable.
When you do something nice for a woman, you are applying what behaviorists call "reinforcement." Intuitively, "bad boys" know all about this. A "reinforcement" is a reward something that feels good that the subject gets for performing a certain behavior or for having a certain feeling. For instance, giving a dog a treat when he comes to you when you call his name reinforces the behavior of coming when you call. In time, the dog will look forward to coming when you call, because he knows that obeying you will mean he'll get a reinforcement that he likes.
The thing to know is that if you give the dog a treat every single time he comes when you call, he'll start to get lazy. He'll figure, "Eh, why should I hurry? I can get over there in my own good time, and take the treat." Constant reinforcement stops being effective after a while.
You may have noticed this in your own relationships. Have you ever had someone who consistently goes out of his or her way to make you feel special? Suppose that one morning, out of the blue, someone at your work place brought you a cup of excellent coffee when you first sat down at your desk. You'd probably feel pretty special, and you'd be happy to see that person later in the day. You would have associated seeing that person with the good feelings you got from the gift.
But now imagine if that person brought you coffee every single day, like clockwork, and never missed a day. At first you'd probably appreciate it, then you'd notice it less, then you'd hardly notice it at all. You might even start complaining when the coffee wasn't exactly the way you liked it, or get angry if he or she missed a day. You'd naturally go from being delighted by the constant gifts to seeing them as a regular part of life, or even as something you intrinsically deserve. This is a natural reaction to constant, unvarying reinforcement.
If you constantly shower a woman with gifts and attention, you run the risk of the same thing happening. At first, it's important to reinforce a woman constantly; it gets her in the habit of being happy about seeing you. But after a while, if your gifts and attention are going to stay effective, you must start bestowing them a little more irregularly. This is what behavior experts call a "variable schedule of reinforcement." You don't give her flowers every week, or every date. You don't always have a little gift for her. You don't always show up to flirt with her at the same time, or on the same day. You vary your schedule of making her feel extra-good, and thus keep the interaction exciting and fresh for her.
Tom puts a variable schedule of reinforcement to good use. "When I first start dating a woman, I go out of my way to make her feel good a lot," he says. "But in time, I know I can start scaling back. As long as I keep making her feel good often, I get better results if I don't reinforce her with special gifts or presents every single time I see her." The classic trap to watch out for is any reinforcing behavior that begins to look like a habit to you. Keep an eye open for things you always do to make her feel special. Don't always bring her gifts; don't always visit her work place once every three days. Vary your schedule of reinforcement, and you'll have a lot more success.
Best of luck !
Ron Louis and David Copeland
Friday, February 19, 2010
Why Women Are Attracted To Bad Boys, Thugs, And Players
September 19, 2:51 PM
SF Dating Advice ExaminerDeborrah Cooper
Handsome, smart, sexy with an edge.Men are confused about what women want in a dating relationship – no surprise there. However one of the chief things single men are confused about is the conflict between what single women say they want in a man vs. what they are attracted to. Like a moth to a flame, women are drawn to thugs, bad boys and players. Here's why.
With a Choice between Erkel and a Thug, Erkel Would Lose
Next to the subject of Global Warming, this has been one of the most debated topics in recent memory. The definition of "nice guy" is very subjective, and has an association related to personal perception, regardless of gender.
If you look at the movies, television sitcoms, novels, and society overall, you can see that the men that excite women all have the same common denominator: the guys that go against the grain.
Regardless of race, genre, or era, this is the type of guy that women attach a high romantic value to. Clyde in "Bonnie and Clyde", Rambo, even Bluto. Men such as these take chances (some wise, some not so smart), and live on the edge. They take pleasure in pushing the envelope and deviating from conventional behaviors. They go after what they want with a focus and determination that women find extremely exciting.
These men are not afraid to shock the sensibilities of others, make mistakes, nor to generate social or personal disdain. So when a woman says that a man is "too nice," what she really means is that this particular guy lacks the sexual charisma, charm, or whatever it is that makes that particular woman feel hot and horny and interested.
Whenever someone refers to a man as "too nice," it translates in women's minds to "doormat!" which will sap the sexual tension right out of any woman. Most women love to see a man who has a backbone, beliefs that he stands by, who won't put up with any of her nonsense, and that will call her out on her stuff when he feels she's out of line. He has to turn her on visually as well.
Ronald, a bad boy with a Masters DegreePimp Pimp Hooray!
A lot of what women like about thugs and players is the energy they exude as men. Let's say we have a geeky but attractive young professional male that wears Hugo Boss suits and ties to work. Women in his office building say he is handsome, funny and interesting. Let's say we add an earring and put him in the latest hip hop gear (you know, the baggy stuff that the nice guys hate). Chances are great that the same professional women who found him attractive as a suited businessman would also find him irresistible as a thug, because they are attracted to his male energy. He would also draw the attention of younger women that are attracted to his energy and his youthful "gear."
Ronald is a 28 year old IT professional with a Masters degree in Computer Science. He agrees with the assessment above: "I've experimented with this issue before. I'm able to pull more women in Sean Jean or Coogi than when I'm in my shirt and tie."
Men, genetically hardwired to place a very high value on sexual enjoyment, should be able to understand that women feel sexual desire and want to be able to enjoy sex. It's impossible to choose a man who leaves a woman feeling sexually cold and dissatisfied over a thug who makes her heart race and her imagination come alive with erotic possibilities. It's the equivalent of a man preferring to be with a cheating gold digger that rocks his world in bed, vs. a really nice 300 lb women with a good heart.
Women love cool, confident men.Release the Freak
All women have a little bad girl inside that would, with the right motivation and encouragement, love to break free. A woman needs a man who can complement that side of her.
And no, the opposite of a "too nice" guy does not have to be a straight thug. It's frustrating that nice guys tend to see the world in such black and white, polar opposite ways. In reality, there is a whole range of men in between the two extremes… in the gray area.
However, a man allows himself to be taken advantage of by women from his past, family members, or coworkers and fails to stand up for himself would lose respect in most women's eyes. If he failed to stand up for himself and didn't put folks in check that crossed boundaries (without being rude or threatening violence of course) he would be dismissed as "too nice." If he were ineffectual with his ex-wife and allowed her to run over him and interfere with the discipline and rules of the household he established to raise their children, or if he failed to establish himself as a force to be respected and reckoned with as a man period, most women would say he was "too nice."
The man that a woman deems to be "too nice" does not, by her individual standards, present himself as the image of masculine power, strength, confidence, charisma, energy, sexuality, decisiveness, or character.
Too nice also means:
Is There Really Such a Thing as The Man You Love Being "Too Nice?"
It is true that some women will confuse the caring guy that loves her (such as the one I described above who doesn't let anyone take advantage of him) with the guy that is "too nice," but that's generally due to low self esteem and a belief that she doesn't deserve better. Ultimately, something is intrinsically wrong a woman who thinks of herself in this manner.
Smart women don't care for the hot headed, dictatorial, insecure about his manhood, always feeling like he has to prove that he's "da man," type of guy generally associated with the word "thug." You don't have to be a smart-mouthed, violent knucklehead to avoid being labeled "too nice," but you definitely have to be a man about yours.
Women want a versatile, confident and secure man that can handle himself on the basketball court, in the boardroom and in the bedroom. Women love a responsible, mature man who is appreciative of family, and respectful of women, children, people and life. Women want a guy with intelligence and education, balanced with common sense and street smarts.
Women love a nice guy with a little thug in him.
SF Dating Advice ExaminerDeborrah CooperHandsome, smart, sexy with an edge.
With a Choice between Erkel and a Thug, Erkel Would Lose
Next to the subject of Global Warming, this has been one of the most debated topics in recent memory. The definition of "nice guy" is very subjective, and has an association related to personal perception, regardless of gender.
If you look at the movies, television sitcoms, novels, and society overall, you can see that the men that excite women all have the same common denominator: the guys that go against the grain.
Regardless of race, genre, or era, this is the type of guy that women attach a high romantic value to. Clyde in "Bonnie and Clyde", Rambo, even Bluto. Men such as these take chances (some wise, some not so smart), and live on the edge. They take pleasure in pushing the envelope and deviating from conventional behaviors. They go after what they want with a focus and determination that women find extremely exciting.
These men are not afraid to shock the sensibilities of others, make mistakes, nor to generate social or personal disdain. So when a woman says that a man is "too nice," what she really means is that this particular guy lacks the sexual charisma, charm, or whatever it is that makes that particular woman feel hot and horny and interested.
Whenever someone refers to a man as "too nice," it translates in women's minds to "doormat!" which will sap the sexual tension right out of any woman. Most women love to see a man who has a backbone, beliefs that he stands by, who won't put up with any of her nonsense, and that will call her out on her stuff when he feels she's out of line. He has to turn her on visually as well.
Ronald, a bad boy with a Masters Degree
A lot of what women like about thugs and players is the energy they exude as men. Let's say we have a geeky but attractive young professional male that wears Hugo Boss suits and ties to work. Women in his office building say he is handsome, funny and interesting. Let's say we add an earring and put him in the latest hip hop gear (you know, the baggy stuff that the nice guys hate). Chances are great that the same professional women who found him attractive as a suited businessman would also find him irresistible as a thug, because they are attracted to his male energy. He would also draw the attention of younger women that are attracted to his energy and his youthful "gear."
Ronald is a 28 year old IT professional with a Masters degree in Computer Science. He agrees with the assessment above: "I've experimented with this issue before. I'm able to pull more women in Sean Jean or Coogi than when I'm in my shirt and tie."
Men, genetically hardwired to place a very high value on sexual enjoyment, should be able to understand that women feel sexual desire and want to be able to enjoy sex. It's impossible to choose a man who leaves a woman feeling sexually cold and dissatisfied over a thug who makes her heart race and her imagination come alive with erotic possibilities. It's the equivalent of a man preferring to be with a cheating gold digger that rocks his world in bed, vs. a really nice 300 lb women with a good heart.
Women love cool, confident men.
All women have a little bad girl inside that would, with the right motivation and encouragement, love to break free. A woman needs a man who can complement that side of her.
And no, the opposite of a "too nice" guy does not have to be a straight thug. It's frustrating that nice guys tend to see the world in such black and white, polar opposite ways. In reality, there is a whole range of men in between the two extremes… in the gray area.
However, a man allows himself to be taken advantage of by women from his past, family members, or coworkers and fails to stand up for himself would lose respect in most women's eyes. If he failed to stand up for himself and didn't put folks in check that crossed boundaries (without being rude or threatening violence of course) he would be dismissed as "too nice." If he were ineffectual with his ex-wife and allowed her to run over him and interfere with the discipline and rules of the household he established to raise their children, or if he failed to establish himself as a force to be respected and reckoned with as a man period, most women would say he was "too nice."
The man that a woman deems to be "too nice" does not, by her individual standards, present himself as the image of masculine power, strength, confidence, charisma, energy, sexuality, decisiveness, or character.
Too nice also means:
- You are a wimp in that woman's eyes… milquetoast, sensitive and soft like a woman.
- you are confused about what to do and how to do it to protect yourself when you see a game being run.
- you have low self esteem and don't demand respect from the women you date in an effort to please, which comes across as groveling.
- you are always there for people that are never there for you. Too nice means your family knows you are an easy tap for rent money after they spent theirs gambling in Reno.
- your boss has no problem calling you in do work and assignments on the weekend, even though s/he knows you have plans with your family.
Is There Really Such a Thing as The Man You Love Being "Too Nice?"
It is true that some women will confuse the caring guy that loves her (such as the one I described above who doesn't let anyone take advantage of him) with the guy that is "too nice," but that's generally due to low self esteem and a belief that she doesn't deserve better. Ultimately, something is intrinsically wrong a woman who thinks of herself in this manner.
Smart women don't care for the hot headed, dictatorial, insecure about his manhood, always feeling like he has to prove that he's "da man," type of guy generally associated with the word "thug." You don't have to be a smart-mouthed, violent knucklehead to avoid being labeled "too nice," but you definitely have to be a man about yours.
Women want a versatile, confident and secure man that can handle himself on the basketball court, in the boardroom and in the bedroom. Women love a responsible, mature man who is appreciative of family, and respectful of women, children, people and life. Women want a guy with intelligence and education, balanced with common sense and street smarts.
Women love a nice guy with a little thug in him.
Thursday, February 18, 2010
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Why Women Are Attracted to Bad Boys
Why are women attracted to bad boys? This question has been asked a number of times without a satisfactory answer. The reason why women are attracted to bad boys could be due to their rough looks and the excitement that comes from associating with them. Some people believe that women are attracted to bad boys because of the aura of selfishness and self confidence. Whenever women see a grungy looking person on a motorbike, they feel sexually attracted to him as a sense of adventure flows into their minds.
Dating bad boys is quite unpredictable. He may take you out to a restaurant in one minute and the next minute have a rollicking and risky time on his motorbike. Some women find a safe and comfortable ride quite boring.
Women feel quite sexy while dating bad boys. The main reason behind this is that bad boys do not care whether a woman likes them or not. Now compare this to a so-called nice guy who is always desperate to please his lady and can come across as clingy and wimpy.
Breaking rules is common among bad guys and this automatically makes them attractive to women who are thrilled with the unpredictable and exciting behavior. Whereas good guys are predictable and this can get boring.
Women who love bad boys actually get subconsciously attracted to their self confidence and in some ways or the other think that their offspring will survive in the race to acquire success and wealth. In this way the gene factor also plays an important role in attraction to bad boys.
One thing is certain; being bad gets ten times more attractions than being good!
Dating bad boys is quite unpredictable. He may take you out to a restaurant in one minute and the next minute have a rollicking and risky time on his motorbike. Some women find a safe and comfortable ride quite boring.
Women feel quite sexy while dating bad boys. The main reason behind this is that bad boys do not care whether a woman likes them or not. Now compare this to a so-called nice guy who is always desperate to please his lady and can come across as clingy and wimpy.
Breaking rules is common among bad guys and this automatically makes them attractive to women who are thrilled with the unpredictable and exciting behavior. Whereas good guys are predictable and this can get boring.
Women who love bad boys actually get subconsciously attracted to their self confidence and in some ways or the other think that their offspring will survive in the race to acquire success and wealth. In this way the gene factor also plays an important role in attraction to bad boys.
One thing is certain; being bad gets ten times more attractions than being good!
About Author:
Pauline Go is a professional writer for many dating websites. She also writes other great articles like French Kissing Techniques, Successful Speed Dating Tips, Body Language When A Guy Likes a Girl
Pauline Go is a professional writer for many dating websites. She also writes other great articles like French Kissing Techniques, Successful Speed Dating Tips, Body Language When A Guy Likes a Girl
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
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