Women know before hand the hard-to-find traits that they're looking for in a guy ("Mr. Right"), and because there are so seemingly few in existence, women don't put their lives on hold. Instead they go from guy to guy, boyfriend to boyfriend, subconsciously hoping that one day this Mr. Right will suddenly drop into their lives. To a woman, Mr. Right is someone who appeals to her own personal style. Mr. Right could be anyone... And it's not about looks (sure looks might get her attention, but only for a moment). Again, Mr. Right could be anyone, and so a woman will perform "tests" to see if a particular guy might be a Mr. Right.
For the purpose of this article, let's say that Mr. Right is a guy who's presence tells the world that he expects respect, and he doesn't have to work for this respect.
So everything about you says that you deserve respect just because you were born. But do you really deserve this respect?... Time to put you to the test.
For example, sometimes women will "lead you on" as a means of testing you... If you respond in any way that tells a woman that you think she's leading you on, you've just failed the test. So no matter what happens, never do anythingthat makes her think that you think she's leading you on. One easy way to disable this specific test is to put a stop to all contact with her the moment she attempts to test you (and don't waste your time telling her off - it's counterproductive!). Turn your back (so to speak) and don't say anything, and do not be affected. If you tell her off, it shows her that she's had an affect on you.
By acting unaffected, her mind will go to work, wondering why you're not affected by her antics... Allude (but be subtle) to other women, and you'll make her think that the reason you're not being "strung along", is that you have other women to choose from... She might even wonder if it's you stringing her along! However, if you're going to allude to women, BE CAREFUL... Remember to be subtle, because if you outright say that you have other women to choose from, or that you "can get any girl", you may challenge her pride. And if she's prideful, this can give her the psychological strength to leave you and never look back.
The more a woman wonders as to what your intentions are, the more she becomes involved psychologically, and the more your value goes up in her eyes... This is a good reason why many "bad boys" have their way with women... [ "...Psychologically, the more a woman (or anyone) wants something, the more it will elude her, and the more she'll chase after it. In your case, the longer this process carries on, the less willing she will be to give you up once she thinks you're 'caught'"... - Section III, Senoritas Escandalosa - Dating-Insider.com ]
Anger and emotion are counterproductive - when dealing with a woman's tests, it's not about passing these tests by doing "the right thing"... it's about staying calm and objective, and throwing her off-balance by not letting her test you.
Remember: To pass her tests, ignore them. Do not give her tests the time of day. If her tests are persistent, laugh at them until she feels foolish for trying to test you.
When she tests, treat her like she's your kid sister... Because in reality, this is how she's acting. Sometimes women are aware they're performing tests, and other times they're not aware. Rather than chasing along, trying to pass her tests, laugh them off. And then go on as if it's business as usual. Maybe you'll piss her off and she'll never want to talk to you again, but this is a risk you have to be willing to take. Chances are much greater she'll have a lot more respect for you in the end. And even if she doesn't want to talk to you again, be secure knowing that you didn't play by her rules, and instead are telling her to play by yours, or hit the road.
If you've ever wondered why women go for "assholes", you've just learned a key driving force. In reality, most of these assholes aren't assholes... They're simply untouchable. They do things on their own terms. They can't be negotiated with... They act with authority, and get the respect that goes along with it. They can't be tested. They maintain independence from social constraints.
This is the kind of independence that Hollywood has glorified, because it's a position that commands respect and authority. Women string guys along until they find a guy that they can't string along. Then that woman's attention will suddenly center 100% on this new guy, and the guys who were being strung along are all but forgotten. If you've learned anything by now from Dating-Insider.com, it's independence. Independence shows that you have high confidence, and don't have to depend on anyone for your well being. Independence in men can be thought of as seducing women without even trying. Women (and men) are attracted to independence. To an outside observer, you're not trying to pick up the women in question. Instead, you carry on as if women aren't that important to you. While seemingly arrogant, it somehow strikes a psychological chord with many women.
At the time of this writing, Pamela Anderson - a woman worshipped by men around the world and made a household name by the television show, Baywatch - is dating music performer, Kid Rock. Before Kid Rock, she had a well-publicized relationship with Tommy Lee of 80's glamour rock band Motley Cruë... Before ever meeting these musicians, you can be sure that Pam Anderson had heard some of their songs... Consider the lyrics she probably heard...
"Girl don't go away mad, just go away..." (Motley Cruë)
"I'm not straight out of Compton, I'm straight out of the trailer..." (Kid Rock)
"It's the same old situation, it's the same old ball and chain..." (Motley Cruë)
"Because I want to be a cowboy, baby..." (Kid Rock)
Tommy Lee and Kid Rock have both had their way with one of the most worshipped women in history. If anything, these relationships have really put a spot light on the "bad boy" image that for a variety of reasons, is powerfully seductive.
So what do women see in bad boys?
Two words... RISK and INDEPENDENCE (remember these words from earlier in this article?). Since women are not prepared to be responsible for being "bad" themselves (risk taking / adventure seeking), they find it very attractive when they find men who are "bad". These are men who are (or seem) prepared to take risks and have adventures and along the way, will encourage the women, to be bad themselves. That's a great deal of the appeal of a bad boy. Even if the woman is bad, she's still morally better than he is. And that's very attractive to her. She can be as bad as she wants, and she knows the guy will be badder.
The other thing is that bad boys are perceived as guys who have more "wild fun" than "nice guys". And they show women more fun. Bad boys like their lives. Women find their energy and self-confidence strongly attractive. When women find these traits in a nice guy (which is rare), they usually marry him. When they find it in a bad boy, they usually just sleep with him.
If you want plenty of one night stands, consider taking on the aura of a "bad boy"... Or in more common terms... BECOME A BAD BOY... Then put yourself in an environment where women are looking for guys like you, and you'll find many vying for your attention.
(Side Note: This is why most "nice guys" don't get one night stands... And when "nice guys" are out on the town, they make it EVEN EASIER for bad boys to get one night stands. Because nice guys help make the bad boys stick out in a crowd.)
Pamela Anderson could have any man in the world. She could have Billionaires. She could have Kings.
So (at least at the time of this writing) why is she with a butt-rocker from Detroit?
Now you know.
by Dating Insider
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