It seems that when it comes to men chasing women, we guys are divided into two camps: the nice guys... and the bad boys. This is a very extreme way of looking at things, making men think that they have to make some huge decision with serious repercussions, like choosing between the Jedi and Dark Side, good and bad, black and white. But what about the middle ground? If you're a nice guy who puts women on a pedestal and lets them get away with everything, you certainly can't let them keep doing this. But if you're a bad guy who treats women like yesterday's trash, you're not going to do much better either. So there's got to be some compromise. Here are my seven proven techniques for getting women by embracing your "inner bad boy"--while still allowing yourself to be you.
1. Surprise them.
1. Surprise them.
If there's one thing girls like, it's a surprise. There's nothing better than keeping them on their toes. Do this by going against social norms; for example, giving her the "black power fist" when she's expecting a handshake. Or walk up to her and challenge her to a game of thumb wars. As you're having a great conversation, say you've got to leave. This all goes a long way towards making her heart flutter, and making YOU more attractive--without being a complete dooschbag.
2. Do the unexpected.
Unfortunately, nice guys always do what they're SUPPOSED to do. They say hello, ask sincerely how a girl is, and stare in admiration as she says she's a model. BORING. Nah, you've got to release your inner bad boy by doing the stuff you're NOT supposed to do. Show her you're fun, show her you're fearless: flirt shamelessly, grin at a sexual comment, and tease unabashedly. You don't have to be a complete jerk to do these things, just a guy who's confident that he'll get away with things that aren't "the norm". Girls love to not know what to expect, so do the unexpected!
3. Be a rebel.
I'm not saying to break the law, but don't always go by the rules. Show her you're fun and break conventions here and there.
So what if there are people watching! Give her a big kiss in the middle of the street. So what if boardwalk is closed?
Take her for a romantic midnight stroll. Who cares if the speed limit is 50? Drive her at 75 and watch her scream in delight. You don't have to be a complete ass to show girls some fun.
4. Get physical.
If you're not already going to a gym or into martial arts, now is the time. Girls love a guy who can kick some butt. It's the part of the bad boy that makes them feel safe and secure. So get to work on your body! Nothing says irresistible like a man in shape who can protect her.
5. Make her feel safe.
Show her your confidence, your self-assuredness by taking her hand, walking on the side of the sidewalk closest to the street, and never backing down from any situation. That's not a license to get into fights, just to make her feel protected and safe.
6. Tease.
This is a strategy you can't go wrong with. Bad boys don’t let a girl get away with unacceptable behavior. If she's talking like she's the greatest person ever, they'll joke, "Man, if this lady's ego gets any bigger we're all gonna have to evacuate!" If she says she's a model, say something to the effect of, "Oh yeah? Is that it?" And show her your value by saying, "Listen, I'm afraid I'm not gonna be able to stick around. Your mouth is destroying my ear drums." In other words, don't be afraid to joke around and put her in her place!
7. Develop attitude
I just can’t emphasize enough how crucial having a winning, confident attitude is. You don’t really care what others say. You don’t care what others think. No matter how a woman reacts, it just blows right over you. That’s because you’re always in control. No woman—whether beautiful, popular, or rich—has power over you. You’re not dependent on anyone, you don’t need anyone, and you don’t have to cling to anyone. If she thinks she's too good for you, you get right up and move to the next girl, because you're a great catch and you know it!
Remember, you don't have to be a complete asshole to get girls, just embrace the winning characteristics of the bad boys, and you'll be lining up girls left and right!
By James B
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